Everyone Has a Sex Story

By Ilana Novick

“We’re conducting all of our interviews from bed from now on,” Menage a Trois Radio host, comedian and graphic designer Diana Kolsky announces at the close of ours. This was both one of the most inspirational quotes I’ve ever gotten from an interview, and a fitting statement from the co-host of a sex and relationships podcast, especially one that allows their guests to relax as much as this one.  

Kolsky hosts the show with her husband Murf Meyer, announcer on the charmingly chaotic Chris Gethard Show and actor whose appeared on Broad City and Younger. Every Wednesday they invite a third party to talk about the glorious and sometimes messy world of love, sex, relationships and “every goddamn thing in between". Meyer and Kolsky have both always been interested in the subject. “Everyone has a sex story,” says Kolsky. And through questions, games, and even a cocktail, they usually get it out of their subjects.

The best part is neither the guest nor the listener ever feels like a third wheel with these two. Each show begins with the hosts catching us up on their respective weeks (it’s pretty damn adorable when Kolsky asks Meyer, “how are ya darling.”), and quickly moves into introducing the guests (Amy Poehler, Josh Gondelman, Aparna Nancherla, among tons of other luminaries). They then have a chat allowing guests to reveal things like how Judy Gold realized she was gay and how rapper Princess Superstar is mildly attracted to R2D2 (with a side discussion on what his penis might look like) and launch into their signature games, including gems like “what’s the sexiest animal?” “69 or 420?” and my personal favorite, “From Whose Mouth?” where the guest is given two sex related quotes, two possible authors of said quotes, and then he or she has to figure out who said them.

The guests are clearly having a blast, even if they’re not talking about sex. The chat with Josh Gondelman touched on both taxes (“only reason we got married,” joked Meyer) and the similarities between Philadelphia and Boston (”sports teams, history, and northern racism,” said Gondleman). It’s a testament to the hosts’ work. As Meyer and Kolsky point out, “we do prep for all our episodes, researching the guest, getting questions from social media, even finding out what they like to drink.” After all, Meyer notes, “we’re boozehands… The boozier, the more fun.” It also often gets a great, filthy one-liners out of their guests, like Gold’s, “I want a martini as dry as a 98 year old woman’s vagina… With three olives.”

Wish you could hang with these cuties in person? Well, rather than record a live podcast, Meyer and Kolsky decided to create a live show called After Dark, which appears monthly at UCB. It’s a chance to “get more theatrical,” as Meyer says, the show even featuring live bands, including a recent appearance from Shellshag.

Both the show and the podcast serve as anchors for hosts. When you’re a creative person with a million jobs, many of which also depend on other people’s ideas, it’s crucial to have an outlet where your own ideas and creativity reign supreme. It's “a warm fuzzy friend you can come back to,” says Kolsky.

Find out more about Diana Kolsky and Murf Meyer here and here. Grab tickets for the June 11th installment of After Dark here. Follow the show on Twitter @menageradio.